Singleton.
That's what they call Sarah. When I was pregnant with the twins, I felt sorry for all the singletons in the world. That very word brings to mind a loneliness that no human should have to endure, especially a brand new little baby.
Twins always have each other. From the moment the twinning process begins (In our case, 4-6 days after conception) each little soul has another to keep it company. It makes life 'on the outside' much easier. If Mommy isn't in sight, each has the comfort of the other. At just one month old, we had the twins sleeping in a crib together in their own room. They had each other to calm themselves down and they slept very well with little intervention from us. Of course, we were getting them every two to three hours to feed them, but the in between time was peaceful.
I am now the proud Mommy of a singleton and, though the word still seems sad, Sarah is anything but. It is such a new and interesting experience, raising a singleton as compared with the twins. Sarah does not sleep in her own room, yet, as she is very much attached to me. Most of the time she is even sleeping in bed with us. She squirms and squeaks and squiggles until she finds me close. Most of the time she is happy with the smell of me, but sometimes I have to turn the light on so she can see that I really am there.
She is learning more and more that she can trust her Daddy to give her comfort and she is starting to be much easier about letting others hold her. I suppose the twins handled that well from the start because, well, there were two of them, and Mommy couldn't always be the one to fix their problem. The were fed by bottle from the very beginning and I wasn't always the one feeding them. Sam and I both provided for their needs. Sarah, on the other hand, being breastfed, has been very reliant on me. It's a sweet relationship that I didn't have with Katie or Josie.
For now, I have to go. I'm sure I'll be posting more about this topic soon, but the twins are in need of a snack and some lovin'!
1 comment:
I don't think it is such a sad thing, being a "singleton". We all are and were just fine growing up.
As for putting them to bed in their own crib, Mandy was sleeping in hers alone at night from the first day home from the hospital. Not so lonely, it seems. Of course, she was up frequently for nursing, but she never seemed to suffer for being "alone" in the crib.
Children are amazingly adaptive. Especially if they don't know any better.
I am glad you are enjoying Sarah. She is beautiful.
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